Who is my soulmate, you ask? The answer is in your heart

Who is my soulmate? Sometimes, the loneliness can feel like we're missing part of ourselves. And — we are. But not in the way you might think.

You may or may not know, I wrote a novel about spiritual awakening, soulmates and reincarnation called Moondance. It's fast-paced healing fiction, a story about a woman who experienced a devastating betrayal by a man she loved... and how this experience changed her life.

Awards for Moondance

When consciously seeking your soulmate, it's natural to wonder who your soulmate is. What will he or she look like? Is it the one I'm dating? The one I'm emailing now? How will it feel to be in his or her arms? Travel together? Wake up on Saturday morning and have a lazy brekky?

Instead of imagining the question with longing (which does not support the law of attraction), consider imagining your ideal partnership with curiosity and anticipation. Instead of asking Who is my soulmate, ask: I wonder what it'll feel like when s/he's in my life...(whoever they are).

Here's my beloved protagonist Althea, as she's on the cusp of knowing that her dear soulmate is on his way:

She felt a tingling energy. She recognized it as the anticipation that she sometimes experienced at the cusp of change—the day she got into the MBA program, the day she decided to move into Sophie's apartment, the day she started at White Light. Even the day she went to visit Kevin in Kingston. It was like that, but tenfold—not a change in life but a change in destiny — a high-spirited sweet-bursting exhilaration.

Imagine that your soulmate is already known and on their way to you. Know it. Live it. Hold it all with wonder, curiously in your heart.

If you fall into pessimism or ambivalence, notice it and love that part of yourself. Be quiet for a time and allow yourself to open once again to possibility.

Until the moment when your imagination... and present reality align.

From Moondance:

At first, she noticed that her own steps had gained depth, like the subwoofer of her stereo. The sound split, and another set of footsteps settled in behind her. The air was now thicker, floral, heady and warm, and she knew. Her senses were immediately awake. “It's me, Al.” The voice was soft, slightly musical. “Thought I should stop by so I can make sure you don't get lost.” Hot tears stung her eyes and she smiled.

How to find your soulmate

Once you connect with this feeling inside you, use it to attract and find love outside of you. Not the other way around Always start inside.

You don't have to chase, strive, change or otherwise will yourself to connect with a soulmate. He or she will equally extend themself toward you.

From Moondance:

“You're the reason I'm here?”

“You're the reason, as I understand it. You think I've come to you, but really, I've always been here. I became stronger as your desire grew. You sort of willed me to life. Even when you were fighting me, you were asking for me. All I did was accept your invitation.”

“I'm confused. I thought —”

“That I was your soulmate, the one you wished for, the love of your life?”

“Yes, I—” she stopped, suddenly embarrassed.

“Oh, Al, I'm sorry, I keep forgetting how new this is to you. I have something to do with that, of course. But not only that. But you're the same. You seduced me, you overwhelmed me. I can tell it was you. But it hurt to look at you.”

“I wanted you to look. But you weren't ready. I never wanted to hurt you.”

“And now?”

“Now you're ready to know.”

Calling forth a soulmate

Are you ready to know who your soulmate is?

Start from the inside out. Start with you. Who are you? What do you believe? What's important to you? What kind of life do you want?

Then and only then ask: Who will go with you.

Use all of the information at your disposal to piece together your soulmate first in your imagination... and then in your life. Imagine the feeling you want when you are with that person - and then imagine their face. Every time you find yourself asking Who is my soulmate - return to you... and take steps to become the person in the soulmate relationship you desire. This is your attraction point.

Return to read the short articles on this site. I've designed each to reveal different aspects of soulmate manifestation... igniting your imagination. And living the life your soul intended.

Do you feel closer to knowing: who is my soulmate?

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Finding your soulmate – Busting myths about soulmates... plus the most important question to ask yourself during a conscious soulmate search...

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