How to find true love... from the inside out

Are you wondering how to find true love? How to find your soulmate? It's an age-old, natural human question. Good for you for seeking out answers!

First of all, we don't ‘find’ true love. We create it. Within ourselves first. Within our hearts, within our lives and through all of the people we touch.

When we're committed to doing this, we naturally feel good in every cell of our body. And when we fuse the currency of love in all of our relationships, we attract people who are loving people and also feel good about themselves.

There's no magic, there's no fate. There is only choice. Here are some ideas from which you can choose.

How to find true love

“The way we communicate with others and with ourselves ultimately determines the quality of our lives.”

– Anthony Robbins

Do the things you love to do

Are you a homebody? Give dinner parties! Do you enjoy sailing? Volunteer as crew! Did you used to love tennis? Why did you give it up? Don't give up the things that give you joy while you're single. Do more of them. Be open to new things. Cultivate curiosity. If you're single, you'll enjoy your life more. You'll be more likely to connect with others with similar interests and in a similar place as you. When you're dating someone, doing things for you will keep you happy and full of life. Want to know how to find true love? Do the things you love!

Be someone you'd love

If you met you... would you date you? This may sound like a silly question. But if you really want to know how to find true love, it's an important one. Are you easy to be around? Are you supportive? Kind? Dependable? Passionate? Fun? Or a grump? Like attracts like. Be the lover you're looking for while tapping deep inside yourself. This'll put you in a place where you'll attract someone you'll be excited to get to know and who will find you exciting, too.

Get and stay selfish

Writer Neale Donald Walsch says that the most loving person is the person who is Self centered. Do you agree? I do. If you want to know how to find true love, treat yourself as you would your beloved. Be kind. Be generous. Learn what's important to you. Learn why. Identify what your ‘must-haves’ and ‘can't stands’ are. Be prepared to honour what your partner wants, too. When you treat yourself as kindly and generously as your beloved, you are training others on how you want to be treated. So learn to love your own selfishness. S/he will, too.

Be open to serendipity

This means to keep an eye on the future, while surrendering the ‘how’. I have a friend who met her now husband because he stopped her and asked for directions. Another met their sweetie on a long-distance flight. How to find true love? Embrace serendipity. Yet know serendipity is not magic. It's engaging in life. Being an active participant, a co-conspirator. If plans fall off the rails, be fascinated. If you end up somewhere you never expected, relish it and pay attention. Your soul may know better than you. Follow its lead. Open to the possibilities.

Get to know your soul

Want a soulmate? Get to know your soul. So give this site a read through — there's lots here. Commit to your own spiritual awakening journey, whatever that looks like for you. Investigate. Be open to insights. Whatever your beliefs and background, get curious about who you really are and why you're here. This is one of the little talked about secrets of how to find true love (start with the truth about you, and the nature of reality).

Appreciate what you have

“We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.”

– Frederick Keonig

Do you really want to know how to find true love? If you only do one thing on this list, do this one. Find as much as you can to appreciate about your life as it is. The people in it. The home you enjoy. Your friends. Your pets. The food you have each day — nothing is too small.

Appreciation and gratitude is one of the highest energetic vibrations there is. Find as much as you can to appreciate about your life today. The universe will then find ways to send you more things to appreciate... like opportunities to experience true love.

“The world is all gates, all opportunities, strings of tension waiting to be struck.”

— Ralph Waldo Emerson

Hope you found some new ideas on how to find true love.

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